The Kids Will Be Okay | Resilience
When I was trying to figure out how to handle my failing marriage, one of my biggest fears was how this would affect my children. I hated when people told me not to worry, kids are resilient, they’ll be fine. But as a child of divorce myself, I knew that was something people told themselves so they could deal with their situation and not worry about their kids. I don’t think that a person is born resilient or that it is a quality all kids possess. I believe that resilience is developed over time, through experiences. So why am I talking about this? Well it has nothing to do with…
Helping Your Kids Handle Anxiety & Depression
Anxiety and depression are on the rise in children and young adults. Dealing with these conditions can be tough for adults, so it is incredibly important that we help our children learn how to recognize these feelings and handle them in a healthy way. You don’t have to wait to see signs of anxiety or depression to start doing the suggestions below. Parents, help your child implement these actions into their lives. Show them by example, do them together. Too many times we assume our children know what to do with information they are given. Healthy ways to handle anxiety and depression: Establish healthy habits and routines Build good relationships…
Smile…
There’s a song that I never really understood until recently. “Smile, though your heart is breaking. Smile, even though it’s aching…” I used to wonder how anyone could smile if their heart hurt? When I realized my marriage was over, my heart hurt. It was the deepest hurt I had ever felt. It was a hurt that I couldn’t understand or reason away. I thought after I grieved it would go away but instead it lingers. I tried to think of it as a break up but it is much more than that, it is the end of the life you built and the future you thought you had. I…
Lessons I’ve Learned From Quarantine
During our time in quarantine, I learned several things about myself, my family and what was our normal, everyday life. As we are going into green and restrictions are easing, I am hoping to hold on to what I've learned and use it to make our lives a little better than they were before quarantine.
Be Part Of The Solution
I don’t understand. I am sad. I am fearful. This is how I feel about our world. We can tell ourselves that there have always been groups of people who were in unrest, easily provoked, violent, unjust, and cruel. That there is just more media outlets to make us more aware of it. This may be true but our reaction to becoming aware is abysmal. We answer violence with violence. Outrage with outrage. We allow fear to control our actions. We become mean and hateful towards others. We all see it and acknowledge it but we do nothing about it. We make comments. We have become experts at taking to…
How To Help A Friend
Have you ever had a friend who was going through something difficult and wished you knew how to help? Or maybe you were the one going through something and wish people handled it differently. Whatever the situation, here are a few ideas of how you can be there for a friend. Don’t judge. When someone is going through someone difficult, the last thing they need is someone telling them how things got bad or reiterating you don’t understand how this could happen. They also don’t want you to rattle off how you would handle the situation or that you understand what they are going through. Every person is different and…
Starting An Emergency Fund
If I had a theme for this blog, it would be that life doesn’t go as planned. And while we can’t control all that happens in our lives, we can learn from our experiences and experiences of others. During the most recent situation, I learned a lot about myself, my time and my habits. My goal is to not fall into the same habits and to be more intentional with my time now that I am aware of these things. One big thing I noticed was how many people panicked when they were asked to stay home from work. After 1 day of staying home, families with two working parents…
Attitude – It’s All In How You Look At It
Good days can be hard to come by. At times, it can seem like all we get are, at best, sub par days. There isn’t always a lot we can do to avoid bad days. Things happen that are out of our control ALL THE TIME. We can keep having rough days or we can choose to look at things differently. When I wake up in the morning, I can think about how much I don’t want to get out of bed or I can think of it as a chance to do better than the day before. I can complain about every little thing that goes wrong in my…
Why a Blog. Why Me.
Why a blog. I am not a writer. I do not like “putting myself out there”. I love to fly under the radar and mind my own business. So I struggle with having a blog. I mean, truly, it is far easier (and safer) to go about my life and not share anything about it. But as I go through life, I often find myself searching for others who have gone through situations that I am currently going through. I am looking for advice and wisdom because I am not sure how to handle what I am going through. I want to learn from others so I don’t make terrible…
Embrace The Slower Pace Of Winter
When you think of winter, you may think of snow and the cold, shorter daylight hours, the winter blues and how the season drags on longer than all the other seasons (or at least it feels that way). As much as I dread the painfully cold weather, I actually appreciate the winter season for it’s slower pace. Here’s why… I use the slower pace of winter to get inspired, make plans and get organized. I’ve notice that as soon as Spring hits, time starts to fly and my calendar is full. Before I know it we are at the end of the year and I don’t know how we got…
